Gujarat / Gandhinagar: Here the groom does not attend his own wedding, the sister takes him for a walk with the sister-in-law
The country of India is known for its culture. Here different colors are seen in every state. Many types of tribes live in the country. Everyone’s lifestyle is completely different. Their ways of living till marriage are completely different. Marriage has special importance in the society. Every religion has its own customs and rituals. Somewhere the marriage takes place in 4 rounds and somewhere in seven. Whereas somewhere the boy comes riding a mare and somewhere the boy does not go to the wedding. One such unique tradition is in the tribal areas of Gujarat, where the groom does not go in his own procession.
The groom does not go to his own wedding
We are talking about Chhota Udepur in Gujarat where the groom does not attend his own wedding. The groom remains missing in the marriages of the Rathwa community living in three villages Surkheda, Ambala and Sanada. Now you must be thinking that how would a marriage happen without a groom, so let us tell you. In fact, some other unmarried girl from the groom’s family goes on behalf of the groom.
Sister brings bride
The groom may not go to the wedding, but he wears a sherwani, wears a turban, is ready with a sword, but stays at home with his mother. Then his sister reaches the bride’s door, marries her And takes it back home.
Sister takes turns
The groom’s sister also decorates and decorates like a bride. Along with this, both have a garland during the marriage, in which the bride garlands her sister-in-law and the sister-in-law garlands her sister-in-law. The same number of rounds are also taken in marriage. Considering fire as a witness, both take rounds.
Why is this practice
There is a big reason behind this custom that people of this society say that this tradition is about 300 years old. The deities of Ambala, Surkheda and Sanada villages are Bharmadev and Khoonpawa. He is also the adorable deity of the tribal society. It is believed that Bharmadev is a bachelor god. That’s why if a boy from Ambala, Surkheda and Sanada village takes the wedding procession, then he has to become angry with God. Here the custom is actually adopted by the villagers to avoid the wrath of God.
Marriage happens again after going to in-laws house
After the sister’s sister-in-law is brought home, the boy and the girl are remarried at the in-laws’ house. The bride has to repeat all the rituals from Varmala to Phere with the groom. It is said that it is necessary for the groom’s sister to be unmarried for marriage. In such a situation, if someone does not have a sister, then he can take the help of his cousin, maternal sister.
